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Stay safe if you end the relationship

Some violent partners may try to retain control or continue to be abusive after you have ended the relationship.

If this happens to you, there are steps you can take to minimise the risk to your safety. However, it is important to remember that your partner’s violence is not your responsibility. You are entitled to live safely and free of violence.

Apprehended Violence Orders (AVOs)

You can get an Apprehended Violence Order (AVO) that restricts the abuser from contacting you in any way. Find out more information about AVOs and how the police can help.

Make a safety plan

The 24 hour NSW Domestic Violence Line can help you make a safety plan for ending your relationship. Call 1800 65 64 63 or 1800 671 442 TTY (hearing impaired) or see safety planning for more information. For the Australia-wide Domestic Violence Line, call 1800 RESPECT.

Deciding to relocate

In extreme circumstances, you may wish to relocate so that your ex-partner cannot find you. You may wish to:

  • change your child/children’s school
  • keep your new address a secret
  • get an unlisted phone number
  • use a post office box rather than your home address
  • stay safe online
  • cancel your bank accounts and credit cards, especially if you shared these with your partner
  • keep a mobile phone with you and call 000 if you feel unsafe.

See support if you end the relationship and accommodation for more information about services that can support you to relocate.

Changing your routine

If you are staying in your home or in the same area as your ex-partner, changing your routine can help to keep you safe. Changing your routine can include:

  • taking a new route to go to work
  • avoiding places where your partner would think to find you, such as favourite shops and cafes
  • changing any appointments that they know about
  • finding new places to shop.

Call the 24 hour NSW Domestic Violence Line on 1800 65 64 63 for more information, counselling and referrals to support services.

Staying safe at work

Domestic and family violence can make your workplace unsafe, as well as making it difficult for you to perform your duties at work.

Domestic violence at work provides information and support to working women experiencing domestic violence.

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