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Helping someone else

If someone you know is a domestic violence victim there are things you can do to help.

Do you suspect domestic violence?

Common warning signs include:

  • seeming afraid of, or anxious to please, their partner
  • stopping seeing friends and family 
  • being anxious, depressed, withdrawn or losing their confidence
  • saying their partner is jealous, possessive or has a bad temper 
  • showing signs of physical violence, such as bruises, sprains or cuts 
  • saying their partner continually phones or texts them when they are apart
  • not wanting to leave their children with their partner 
  • saying their partner pressures or forces them to do sexual things 
  • saying their partner controls their money 
  • being harassed or stalked after they end a relationship.

For more information, see what is domestic violence? and recognising it.

How to start talking about domestic violence

If you are approaching a friend or family member to talk about domestic violence, wait until they are alone and it is safe to speak. Let them know that you are worried about them and ask if they are ok. Don’t push them to talk if they are uncomfortable, but let them know that you’re there if they need to talk. Also tell them about support services that can help, such as the NSW Domestic Violence Line - 1800 65 64 63.

What to do if someone confides in you

If someone confides in you about experiencing domestic violence, your response is very important and can make a real difference. If the victim feels supported by the people around them, they are more likely to seek help. Remember to:

  • tell them you believe them 
  • let them know that it is not their fault 
  • let them know you want to help them
  • tell them about services that can help, such as the NSW Domestic Violence Line (1800 65 64 63) and 1800 RESPECT (Australia-wide service)
  • understand that they might not want to leave or that this could take a long time.

Remember to look after yourself 

Supporting a friend or relative who is being abused can be frightening, stressful and sometimes frustrating. If you need to talk to someone, Lifeline is a 24 hour support service that can be contacted on 13 11 14.

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